From
“Your Body of Knowledge” copyright Robert Lawrence 2017
I have taught technique like this at an early iteration of this concept (Relaxed meditative orgasms taught in 1973 at More University in Petaluma CA – mea culpa), I then became a Chiropractor and later received an EdD in Sexuality—which gives me a unique appreciation of both voluntary and involuntary muscular responses during an arousal/orgasm cycle. This part of the intro is supported later by my writing bout other regions which can be stimulated to orgasm. But for now it is just the Glans.
…To relax the pelvic floor in a body trained since infancy (think toilet training!) to stay anally tight is an active meditation in relaxation and also a discipline of focused voluntary muscle awareness. Trying to reduce or sidestep the programming of decades by moving the pelvis voluntarily can tend to cause a relative attenuation—or deflation–of orgasmic pleasure achieved in this manner.
During clitoral stimulation—which could be called, with a greater degree of anatomical accuracy, glans stimulation–the flutters you may notice in the pubococcygeal muscles demonstrate voluntary muscle relaxation by showing a BCR (bulbocavernosus reflex). In humans, the glans is a sensory organ at the tip of our phallus designed to receive and process erotic touch (its associated brain location is central to and above the amygdala and hippocampus; the decision to relax completely during glans stimulation is most probably done by the amygdala/hippocampus route. A new study from Tye Lab – MIT has just been released, and it’s likely to cause a quite a paradigm shift).
As a person’s pelvic muscles become consciously and fully relaxed, the BCR likely shows up in response to well-timed, properly pressured lubricated touch. If the touch is too hard or too fast for the reflex, the muscles adapt and the elusive reflex goes away: said another way, overstimulation can overload light pressure and/or deep pressure receptors, so the reflex stops or goes away by adapting. Mild variation of pressure and/or slowing the speed of stimulation may solve this issue. If the stimulation is effective, the fluttering will continue and associated neural regions—i.e., a larger area of the pelvis than just the close in muscles—will begin to join in to build pleasurable sensation.
As this sensation increases it may spread beyond the pelvis, throughout the body. Once sensation increases to the point of orgasmic inevitability, orgasm is initiated in the brain (probably in the supraorbital prefrontal cortex—for more info on this fascinating study, see Komisaruk and Whipple’s study called Functional MRI of the Brain During Orgasm in Women at Rutgers). Although you may feel it in your pelvis, orgasm actually happens up between your ears. The brain sends a message for a general flexile contracture to the entire postural muscle system, and a full body involuntary flexive orgasm can ensue.